Adoptees and Birthparents Connected by Design: Surprising Synchronicities in Histories of Union/Loss/Reunion
The recently burgeoning phenomenon of search and reunion by adult adoptees and their birth families has uncovered fascinating information. During the author's doctoral research, reunited parents and children related uncanny coincidences that occurred during the years of their separation (e.g., dreaming of one's child in specific danger, naming a later child by the unknown name of the firstborn, knowing the day of a mother's death, vacationing in the same location, making identical purchases, and beginning to search at the same time). In this inquiry, synchronicity as an acausal principle of the unconscious organizing of archetypes (Jung) or as a unifying correlation by affinity (Kammerer) may be balanced with causality: the psychology of separation and loss reactions; prenatal memory; identity and the loss of self; a system in need of information; the architecture of developmental behavioral genetics; and cognitive meaning-making from numinous experience.
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La Vonne H. Stiffler, D.Phil.
La Vonne Harper Stiffler, D.Phil., is a counselor in private practice who emphasizes women's issues and the integration of religion and society. Her latest (1991) article, "Adoption's Impact on Birthmothers: 'Can a Mother Forget Her Child?'", was published in the Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 10(3), 249-259. She is researching the perception of parent-child coincidences during separation by adoption. Address correspondence to P.O. Box 1144, Hobe Sound, Florida 33475.